Are people still looking for love? Of course people say they are and think they are, but I don’t think they understand what it is to be in love and dedicate yourself to someone else’s happiness though sacrifice. With internet dating promising to find your soul mate for a low price and with no effort needed, why do we need to try for something someone will just give to us. People need partnership, even if they don’t want to admit it I feel our purpose on this planet is to partner up and procreate for the benefit of our species and our planet. Instead we are becoming a generation of narcissists who are only concerned with our own personal gain and have zero awareness of humanity as a whole. There are a few factors that contribute to the decay of what people believe to be traditional love, but are they deleting the history of romance we’ve created or simply the beginnings of the next step in the evolution of how people interact while attempting to procreate?

The Sex HookUp

Traditionally if a man wanted to get a woman into bed he would need to court her and seduce her by taking her out for diner and making her feel special. This in turn would develop a relationship between the two individuals that would flourish into a physical relationship and by this point the man has committed enough time and effort to make it worth his while to continue the physical relationship and potentially end up falling in love. Now a days you can pull out your smart phone open up any dating app focused on hooking up and find someone in your local are to have a no strings attached casual sex hookup with no obligations of continuing it in the future. Now im not saying this is a bad thing, lord knows I love me some online hookups. I’m just saying with all the technology we now have in this day in age we can get exactly what we want ,with very little effort needed. So why do we need to spend all this time participating in antiquated relationship rituals? because that’s the way it’s always been? are the old ways still best? are we reluctant to change?

The Match Maker

Apparently now we don’t have to depend on fate or destiny to find us our soul mate, the person were supposed to be with for the rest of our lives. We have people who do this for a living and get paid for it. Again, why should we put effort towards something that we can pay someone to do for us? If there the experts why not trust them to do it for you? Has the romantic idea of meeting someone by chance, by running into a person who reading the same book as you or listening to the same song, been abandoned? Id like to believe that there are still some powers at work that we aren’t aware of that know what’s in store for me, instead of some woman in front of a computer comparing interests to calculate a compatibility percentage. When did love become a mathematical problem that we can calculate the solution to? Where is the fun in that? I’m not under minding the profession of a match maker, I just wish we would leave something in life to chance and be comfortable with the idea that we don’t quite know how the universe works.

The Internet

The internet has drastically changed the landscape of our society and relationships and dating are no exception. If you were meant to meet someone in the past it would have to be in person through some act of fate, but with the internet bringing everyone together in one global community we will interact with a higher number of people in our lifetime. Does this mean that our chances of finding our soul mate are higher? or is the market over saturated making us fickle since we don’t want to spend time building a relationship we just expect it to happen. We expect to fall in love with someone at first sight and love everything about them and be happy every day for the rest of our lives. I don’t think that’s how human beings work as a whole. We all have good days and bad and we need someone to be there through the bad, but if we except to live a fantasy we wont anticipate the hard time and only expect the good.

I realize this article proposes a lot of questions, but does not provide any answers. Although I don’t think anyone has any real answers when it comes to love and dating. It is a mysterious world that were all just trying to make it in. In the meantime I’m going to continue to enjoy some casual dating and the occasional sex hookup and see how this whole thing is going to play out.

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